With Deelishis taking it all, this season of Flavor of Love disproved Bell Biv Devoe's previously hard-and-fast rule -- it turns out that you can trust a big butt and a smile. But for real, Flav couldn't have picked a kinder, warmer girl. After the jump, Deelishis talks winning, courting and why New York wasn't so bad, after all.
First of all, congratulations. Were you elated to win?
I was, but honestly, I felt even greater about it four months ago when it actually happened. Right now, it's more a sigh of relief that I can stop sitting on that secret. I've been holding it and it's like, my head was about to burst. There were so many people I had to deceive. People were always asking me, "Did you win? Did you win? Did you win? We know you won! He would never pick New York!" I really just wanted to say, "Watch the damn show!" But you can't do that to people, so now I feel more comfortable not having to keep the secret.
About the four months between shooting the finale and its airing, what was it like to be separated from Flav during that time to preserve show's secret? Did you keep in touch?
I stayed on him...I mean, he called. Especially when we first got home, we couldn't stay off the phone with each other. We talked maybe four times a day for at least the first two weeks after leaving Belize. But I told him, "Listen: this is going to be a test of what just took place. Was it reality TV with everything being for the sake of TV, or was it reality TV for something realistic between you and me?" I also told him, "I know you're busy, you're big-time. But know that I was serious, I am serious and I need you to make sure you keep in touch in a decent fashion. You stated at the house that you needed a girl that's going to stand by you. You have a whole lot that you're trying to do, and at the end of the day, you need someone who's not gonna leave you because of it. But you were on the other side of the fence last season because that's the same thing that you accused Hoopz of, that she didn't have enough time for you. So don't be that person this time."
In the middle of the season, Flav made it clear that he was looking for someone to kick it with, not necessarily a soul mate. What does that mean? How does it work on a day-to-day basis?
It's a courtship. The show [filmed in] about three-and-a-half-weeks. You can only learn so much about someone in that length of time. Not to mention that he was dating multiple women during that time, so his focus was not just on me. So this is a courtship. I think that at the end of the day, Flav didn't pick his woman, but out of the 20, he decided, This is the woman I have an interest in getting to know and getting to find if that development will take us to the next level. It's just like any other relationship. You meet someone out, you go on a few dates, which is all we did, and you decide if this is comfortable, you want to take it to the next level. You may decide you want to get intimate. I'm handling it just like I would any other relationship. He hasn't become my man, I haven't become his woman, but if that's what they want to call it, hey. I'm OK with it.
It sounds like you're open to take it further, though.
I definitely am.
Is the sky the limit? I know it's premature, but could this end up in marriage?
You just said it: it's premature. It's like with any guy. I've dated guys for several months and to this day, I couldn't look back and tell you whether or not I would have married him. I'd be fooling people if I gave them that answer. But if it went there would I go there? Yes, definitely.
What do you like most about Flav?
He was mad sexy when he went out with New York in that pink suit. Flav has a small physique, but it's still a rock-solid physique. I've laid with him a few nights, so I've been able to be in contact with his little body. You'd be surprised, but there's comfort in his little frame. He's a solid guy. Not to mention, he's chocolate and who doesn't like chocolate? But I'm attracted to charisma, chivalry. That kind of stuff is sexier than any kind of physical asset that you may have. I'm a different type of person.
How has it been for you since the show started, as far as the outside attention?
The attention has been great. It feels good to hear someone say to you, "I love you on the show." More than anything, what's been unbelievable is that people come up to me and say how their children love me. I was in Missouri on Saturday and I was in a shoe store and there was a little boy, he couldn't have been more than 4-years-old. His eyes bugged and he pointed to me and started saying, "Mommy! Mommy!" I looked and I said, "Hey," thinking this little guy's not gonna know who I am. He said, "You are Deelishis!" His mom asked me, "Please, can I have a picture with you and my son? He loves you." I was just floored by that. It's like, you know what, [Deelishis], if you think you're a good person, you're gonna have to be an even better person. It's so important when you have the children looking up to you.
With that in mind, Flavor of Love has gotten some criticism for its portrayal of women, specifically black women. How do you feel about that, and do you feel at all that you represent black women?
I never put myself in that situation to be a representation of black women. However, I did recognize that people would be looking at me as representing myself. Looking at it now, after being home and watching the show, I can understand why a person would say, "Well, that just makes black women look terrible." But no -- any color or any race of a woman could go on TV and do whatever and she would be a representation of herself. It's not even about a color, it's about an individual. And, I don't think I represented myself in a manner in which my race would be disappointed by my actions.
Was the show a bonding experience for you?
Yeah, this was wonderful. I'm an only child, so this was an experience I was looking forward to. With many different personalities in one environment, you're gonna have your ups and downs, but in the house, it was more ups to me. We enjoyed each other. Even Krazy and New York. I actually enjoyed New York because she was funny. She was quite entertaining. I enjoyed Krazy because as ignorant to a lot of things as I thought she was, she was endearing on some level. I enjoyed everything each girl had to bring to the table.
So, let me get this straight: you didn't hate New York?
No, I didn't hate her. I couldn't hate her. I would even tell her sometimes, "You're like the sister I never asked for." We're both Capricorns, she's headstrong and I am, too. I might not come off like she does, but in most cases, when I make my mind up, it's made up. But I didn't hate her. Sometimes she made me laugh. In Belize, I laughed more at her and her reactions than I had ever during the entire season.
I love when she was between the window and the blinds trying to snoop on your date.
That's pure comedy, man. You want that person around you a whole lot. When you're having a bad day, you can turn to the left and crack up.
A few times during the finale, she made some reference to messing with your mind...
I didn't pick up on that. In her confessions she said that, but if you watch, you can see that I wasn't fooled by her. I was giving her the closed-eye to let her know, "Baby, I got your number. I watched you mind-screw Krazy. Trust me, it's not gonna happen here." Maybe she was trying to convince herself, but it wasn't happening. I actually started to feel sorry for her during the last episode. I thought she had a condition.
I really thought she suffered from a condition. You know how some people go through an abusive situation whether it be in the household with their family or with their spouse or whatever? She seemed bipolar. I'm like, nobody can be this way without having gone through something in their life. Either that, or she got some laced drugs or something. I don't know what happened, but she started reminding me of Whitney Houston.
Which she, of course, took as a compliment.
And it wasn't! It's like, that makes you even more crazy, for you to take that and be all right with it.
So, what's next for you, Deelishis?
I gotta be Mommy first. It's important right now. I need my daughter, Jasmine, to walk away with the right impression of what's going on. However, things have been great with the response and if God feels the need to bless me with something awesome, that's worth me taking time away from home for a minute to venture off, I will. If it's something that, I don't want to say "small," but not worth the sacrifice at home for, then I'd have to pass up the opportunity. I gotta be Mommy right now.
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